MAKING A HABIT OF HABITS
THE SECRET TO LIFE IS WHAT YOU THINK OF IT
In his early 20’s, American novelist Stephen King was scratching out a meager existence writing spec articles for pulp publications, like True Crime. But King dreamt of becoming a famous novelist.
His problem? Every time he began penning the great American novel, King suffered writer’s block. Realizing he needed a different approach, he tried something new. Instead of struggling with his end goals, Stephen King began focusing on developing the habits of a successful writer.
THE TRUTH ABOUT HABIT CHANGE
Look for a moment at two different people, stand side by side. To one person, life may occur as a hostile and dangerous enterprise – full of malice, foreboding and frustration. To another person, life may occur as a place of indescribable beauty and endless possibility…. same world; same unpredictability….so how come these two vastly different perspectives? The question might be simply answered if these people came from different circumstance – one being born into the lap of luxury and the other into abject poverty. But how to explain if our examples are next door neighbors with virtually identical circumstances?
Change is hard for many of us. Changing our habits seems even harder so why should we even bother? We fight the good fight, but our old ways are bound to return, at least that’s what we tell ourselves so we can justify doing nothing.
If you undermine your plans for self improvement even before starting, you are simply buying into your mind’s propaganda machine – the self-protective mechanism trying to shield your self image from experiencing failure.
So first, the truth – even physically addictive habits, like drug addiction, can be changed. Just ask the millions of sober members of AA. And with the whipsaw changes in technology, we have all had to become masters at changing the ways we communicate, socialize, consume information and even the way we buy stuff. Although the SHARP Method devotes several chapters to the mechanism of habit change, the principles are simple and straight forward. Here are some: